Comments on: Group Travel: How to Cope When You Don’t Fit In

By: Laurel Robbins

Laurel Robbins — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 09:35:11 +0000

In reply to Ellen. Ellen, thanks for sharing your experience. Definitely pros and cons to travelling in a group vs solo travelling.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Tue, 31 Oct 2023 17:39:20 +0000

I just returned from a 6-day bike trip in Hawaii. Five people in the group: 2 long-time married couples and me. Everyone much stronger cyclists except one of the wives, who rode an e-bike so she could keep up with her husband. I’m perfectly happy riding alone, but other group activities, such as eating, were excruciating. I like many aspects of a group tour but the reality made me want to go it alone next time.

By: Sad Introvert

Sad Introvert — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 09:03:37 +0000

Thank you for this post. I am in the final stretch of a group tour and I am feeling so lonely and rejected. It feels selfish to feel this was on a beautiful vacation but I am regretting taking a group tour. I will try to arrange other things to do to get away from here out. Thank you for this post, I am thankful I’m not alone in this feeling. At least I’ve learned my lesson.

By: Travel Tips

Travel Tips — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 14:32:28 +0000

I have been on travel with groups but I never experienced this thing really good. I have seen many eww moments in the group who ruined trips.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Mon, 01 Jul 2019 03:13:57 +0000

In reply to Laurel. Thanks so much for this article. Since I have been traveling alone for decades, this has been a challenge. Thanks for putting a positive spin on it!

By: Laurel

Laurel — Mon, 06 May 2019 12:50:10 +0000

In reply to Alley Joy.

@Alley, so glad that it helped. It’s funny how we can rationally get that we’re just not connecting with a group but still let it have a negative impact on us. I totally get it – I’m the same way :). Hope that you were still able to enjoy your trip.

By: Alley Joy

Alley Joy — Sun, 28 Apr 2019 14:18:49 +0000

In reply to Ankita.

Wow what a great article! I just had this same exact experience traveling with a group in Thailand for 2 weeks. I’ve gone through the mental process of acknowledging that we are just not connecting and it’s nobody’s fault, but I still had an overwhelming insecurity of feeling “not good enough” which in my heart I know it’s complete BS , however the feeling was still looming until I read this article. I feel a lot better just hearing about your experience as well as all the comments I’ve read on your article.
Many thanks to you! My inner child can rest a bit more now 🙂

By: Laurel

Laurel — Sat, 08 Dec 2018 13:19:29 +0000

In reply to jochell. @Jochell, sorry to hear that you had such a negative experience on your tour but kudos to you for getting out of your comfort zone. That's huge! You're definitely not alone. It's a horrible experience but one that many of us have experienced.

By: jochell

jochell — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 03:16:21 +0000

I had recently returned from a two-week long holiday. During my time with the tour group it may have seemed to everyone like i was unfriendly but its just that i have always been a socially awkward person and don’t feel quite at ease in a large group of people. Traveling in a group like that kinda forced me to get out of my comfort zone but i guess my effort wasn’t good enough. Even the tour guide whom I found to be really nice and friendly ignored my Facebook friend request but accepted everybody else’s. So, thanks Laurel. I found some comfort when reading your article. It’s good to know that I am not the only one who goes through this.

By: Laurel

Laurel — Wed, 21 Nov 2018 09:38:11 +0000

In reply to Sally. @Sally, I'm so glad that it was helpful and so sorry that your most recent group holiday wasn't a positive experience. It's funny how it bothers us, even as adults. We should know better but I think wanting to fit in is very natural. I hope that you were still able to enjoy your holiday. Kudos to you for doing them. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been after being widowed.